For
many, Change is a naughty and bad “C” word. It is a thing that many avoid and
many – yes so many – dread.
Change
is often viewed as taking one off their balance – or their routine. Change puts
a new way of doing something front and center and frankly, many are just
resistant to change in their career and life.
Unfortunately,
given what we have experienced this past several years with a whole new
paradigm of what we once knew as work – and in life as well – being resistance
or unable to manage change may leave you in the dust.
Change is really fear – in another
disguise.
If you
think about it, it isn’t the actual process of change that causes some to
become unnerved. It is the associated fear or the “what of”. Fear plays havoc on one’s mind and body. Fear
associated with change can result in:
• Tiredness
or lack of sleep
• Lack
of concentration
• Feeling
pessimistic
• Feeling
overwhelmed
… or
other mental or physical result. This is often caused by one’s unique ability
to assume – assume – assume – themselves out of sleep and concentration. One assumes that this or that will happen –
and it may or may not – and that causes even more fear.
I am a
big fan of the book and thoughts around The
Four Agreements (http://www.amazon.com/The-Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal/dp/1878424319).
In this bestseller, Don Miguel Ruiz cites
making assumptions as a real deterrent to growth. He believes (as so do I) that
making assumptions causes the mind to wander and not focus and leads one down a
path of the unknown and unproven and that sucks energy.
So then how do you best handle
change – when you don’t embrace it?
Accepting
and managing your life and career through change requires new mindset, a deep
breath and an open mind – key requirements for successful change.
First,
look at change in a new light. Change can bring:
• New
experiences and opportunities
• Stimulation
of new ideas and ways of thinking
• Development
0f new strengths such as more self confidence
• Improved
ability to prioritize and problem solve
If
you can accept this, see below for recommendations on how to better handle and
cope with change – practices you can start today:
• Be
flexible and not rigid in your approach
• Care
for your physical and emotional health to be better conditioned to accept
change
• Maintain
your life & work flow by keeping
some kind of ‘routine’
• Communicate
- be in touch with friends and social networks and don’t become a hermit under
“attack”
• If you
are experiencing stress, incorporate stress reduction techniques such as
mindfulness, meditation, breathing exercises, etc. Me – I take to the slopes or
hop on the treadmill!
• Change
your focus and start a new wish list of new plans and goals to fit your new
circumstances
• Embrace
change and the challenges or opportunities that may be presented.
• Take a
deep breath - take it one step at a time and pledge to yourself not to be
overwhelmed.
• Smile
– and keep your sense of humor.
If you
are still finding it difficult, talk to someone – perhaps a counselor – who can
help you through this change. Of course, the type of change you are undergoing
would dictate the type of counselor.
Embrace
and accept change – don’t resist it. The ability of one to morph and change
their life and career with changing economic and social conditions defines
leadership. The inability of one to morph and change leads to stagnation.
And thank you for reading this - Dan
Dan MoranPresident & FounderNext-Act, Division of DVG, Inc.Career Management & Transition SpecialistsCorporate Management Services
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