Sunday, September 25, 2011

Focus on what you can control – and not what you cannot ...

“It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized”. - Wayne Dyer

I am so lucky. I meet so many fine folks who are determined to grow and prosper. I wonder who else has the opportunity to spend their day helping others achieve their goals and dreams. Kind of nice to say the least.

I do hear often, however, the concern and sometimes paralyzing fixation on things in their life and in our culture that they cannot control, and it stops them dead in their tracks. They don’t change; they don’t grow; they become miserable and so disenchanted.

Of late – it’s the economy, the politics of our nation, the changing culture of workers who have become either disengaged or feel entitled, taxes or other significant challenges we are facing as a culture and nation – as well as residents of our region. These are big issues – huge issues – that we cannot control but have a say in – when you visit the voting booth or contact your legislative leader.
But in the meantime – don’t be halted in your positive plans to move forward by those things you cannot control – focus on what you can control:

• The quality of life you ,and if appropriate, your family enjoys – and protect it.
• The job or career you are in – make it the best experience possible and don’t be held back by the big issues – they are relevant but not paralyzing
• Your relationships – personal, in the community and in your “extended” community – protect and nurture these and continue to grow.
• Your attitude – paramount among all. Your outlook on your future, your life and the achievement of your dreams & goals will define the control you will have on your future. Think rich and be rich; think positive and live a positive life.

Commit to identifying the factors that may be holding you back and with each one ask the question – and give an honest answer:

Can I control this outcome ?

What you can control, change and focus on; let the others drop to the bottom of the list.

Only one person can control you – and that is you yourself. If you can’t control other factors that influence you, let them go, move on and prosper.

And thank you for reading this. - Dan

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