Sunday, October 23, 2011

The Value – of being candid …

“All faults may be forgiven of him who has perfect candor.” – Walt Whitman

“I can’t believe you just said that” …

“I wish he/she would just say what is on their mind and not dance around it …”

“I know what he/she said – but do they mean it – really mean it …?”

I sure you have heard this many a time in your life – I most certainly have. We could all save time, break down barriers and get things done if people would just state what is on their mind, with tact and diplomacy. Candor is critical in business, career and life. Hiding behind crafted words that diffuse what you think or mean isn’t being honest – it isn’t being a leader.

The best leaders are candid – always. They say what needs to be said, and they do not mince words. They motivate by their directness and candor – and their team knows what is expected of them. Oftentimes those on the receiving end don’t like what they are saying – but they believe in their leader and know it is the truth.

When communication breaks down in a job, a company or a relationship once it is often the absence of candor caused by the fear of hurting someone and making them upset in some manner. Communicating without candor does just the opposite – it causes fear, lack of trust and is even more upsetting.

How you communicate in life and career is part of this …

A few tips:
• When faced with having to communicate difficult news – in business, to a loved one or a colleague, be candid, direct and to the point. Your position will be known, and from this point you may move forward.
• Not happy where you are in your career – be candid – with yourself and others – and start the move forward with no surprises.
• Is your mate not being candid – explain how this can hurt – ask for directness (resolves huge problems too!).
• Demand candor from others. Listen carefully to what people say and how they say it. Those who do not speak with candor or are mincing words show it in their voice and in their eyes. If faced with this, with tact and diplomacy, ask pointed questions – politely and always with a smile. The person will get the message – you can be sure.

You can never be faulted for being honest, and candor is the means to the end of better communication and success in career and life,

And thank you for reading this. - Dan

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